Only reasons to hack email: You have been kidnapped and the police need leads.Lulu: I don't think it's a dealbreaker if your partner password protects things from you!
You have expressed that you are likely to commit suicide and he is trying to find you.
You are a strung out crack/meth/heroin user and maybe something found in your email will help convince you to go to rehab.
Other than that - deal breaker.
Flip side - if you are in a long term & committed relationship and your partner has things password protected even from you (for no good reason) I also see that as a dealbreaker. I don't check my husbands email, but I could if I wanted to - he knows this so I have no need to and never have.
Carolyn Hax: Looks good to me, thanks.
Lulu: Some things are just private. Personal emails/chats with friends, for example... (Unless you publish them on your blog.)
Ashley: Galahad knows I write [erotic fiction], but I don't want him reading [truly sick and wrong story Lulu is constantly goading Ashley to finish]. It's for his own good!
Lulu: I don't think I would be tempted to read my partner's email, if I had that access--and in fact the times when I've auto-logged-in I've just logged out again--but I can imagine someone for whom it would be a temptation, and it doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad person. Just curious, or impulsive, or a lover of hilarious pranks. Sometimes it's kinder to help a person keep themself out of trouble.
Ashley: Yeah. I know the idea is nice of trusting your partner not to look, but there's just basic protections you take that are not a reflection on the partner. It's just you not being retarded.
Lulu: Although... I know we have discussed passwords before... and I am pretty sure you could just log into my email any time you wanted.
Ashley: Yeah, same here.